The first few interactions define the dynamic. Aim for warmth without pressure.
I have to be honest. For 19 years, I was the leading lady in my son’s story. I was the one he called when he had a flat tire, the one who knew how he took his coffee (black, two sugars), and the one who got the last hug before bed. My Sons GF version
Before, if we went to the movies, he sat next to me. Now, he holds the seat for her. I end up on the end, holding the popcorn bucket like a paid usher. Before, he asked my opinion on his haircut. Now, he asks her. (For the record, I preferred it longer.) The first few interactions define the dynamic